What Do You Know For Sure?

It happens to me every winter. My head and body feel like they belong to someone else; somewhere else.

Call it a bad case of SAD. The winter just does a number on me, leaving me feeling depleted and depressed. I walk around in a fog, unsure of what I’m thinking and where I’m heading.

But I fight it, knowing that all good things must come to an end.

Here’s something I know for sure:

Spring is on  Thursday, 20 March 2014

42 days, 4 hours remain till Spring!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There, aren’t you happy now? (And by the time you’re reading this, the time until Spring arrives is that much closer!)

What else do I know for sure?

1. I need my friends to get by. Yes, my husband is my friend…but he’s still my husband. So many women say their husbands are their best friends. That may be the case, but do you – can you – really tell your husband the same things you tell your friends? Does your husband have the patience to listen to the details of your hair woes, descriptions of the way your skin puckers right near your eyebrow, or the best mirror to use so all your flaws don’t show up?

2. It’s okay if I don’t want to cook. When my kids were little, I worked really, really hard to get a good meal on the table. In fact, I worked really hard to get three good meals together, most days. I can count on one hand the times I broke down and let my kids eat fast food. If I try to do the math on how many meals I cooked for over 20 years (which still includes Sundays, when the boys come home), the number would be astronomical. So it’s okay every once in a while for me to say, “I just don’t feel like cooking tonight.” Or tomorrow night, either, for that matter.

3. Never give up. It takes a lot of patience and perseverance to accomplish what you want. Plain and simple. And if that means spending a little time arguing your case, or breaking maneuvering the rules (provided no one gets hurt), or feeling like you’re being a pest and belaboring the whole point, then that’s what you have to do. The generation after us might be used to easy fixes and instant results, but there’s no short cut around accomplishing what you really want and set out to do.

4. Dessert won’t kill you. I’m all for healthy eating. I’m also for weight control. But I never go without my sweets. That doesn’t mean I sit down every night to a big chunk of chocolate cheesecake, but a few Hershey kisses or a cupful of animal crackers is usually enough to make me feel like I’ve indulged. And no one gets hurt.

5. Everyone deserves to be/should be lazy. I don’t know about you, but from the minute my feet touch the ground in the morning, I’m busy doing something. Laundry, cleaning, bills, phone calls, writing (not necessarily in that order). So, if I want to take a few minutes to sit and do nothing, that’s okay. It’s probably the best few minutes I’ll spend all day. It’s probably the time when my mind and body will finally be able to just relax and unwind. I just need to remind myself to actually DO IT.

What do you know for sure?




  1. I know for sure that Spring will be here soon:-)
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  2. Rosalba Gordon says:

    I know for sure that a big smile bring a lot of satisfaction!
    Generally, people give back what they see and, if you smile they do the same.

  3. I know for sure that that time of rest and stillness you mnention is the best time of the day and well needed to integrate all else that is going on, as well as what’s next. Time spent with friends a close second.
    Kerry Dexter recently posted..winter meditationMy Profile

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